In the early years of a child we don't need to take our kids to school for Islamic teachings, a mother herself is a school to a child, children are much closer to their mother then their father, what they listen from their mother is stamped on their hearts for life, in fact the persona of the children are deeply affected by the habits and personality of their parents. Fathers do not get to talk to their children as much as mothers do. Whatever they grasp, they grasp it from mothers in the first place, so doesn’t it means that the mother needs to be trained more and be more educated in Islamic teaching. I think mothers need to have Islamic teachings before they get marry and start a new chapter of life as Mothers. As our Deen is a complete way of life, we do not really have to have any second thought of upbringing our kids in a way that they get the correct knowledge of living a successful life. Our religion is a complete religion how can it skip the topics of upbringing children in this world. There is something that we are missing on our own; take a deep breath and think for a few minutes don’t you think that we ask our kids to do what we are not doing ourselves.
In the Quran Allah SWT says in verse 61:2, 3 ''O you who believe! Why do you say that which you do not do? It is most hateful to Allah that you should say that which you do not do'', it means we have no right to tell our children that which we are not practicing ourselves.
For instance if we are asking our children to pray, we should pray first
If we are asking them to read the Quran we should read the Quran first
If we want them to learn good manners, we should practice good manners first
Precisely we should be a role model for our children, and not just expect from them to be the best practicing Muslim child in our friends and in our community.
A Muslim mother has a valued and dignified role. Her contribution is acknowledged and In addition, appreciated. The famous Hadith of the Holy Prophet SAW says: ‘’Jannat lies under the feet of the mothers.’'
A woman came to the Holy Prophet SAW and asked why going for jihad was not obligatory for women. She was afraid that women were barred from achieving the great reward for those who fought and died in the way of the Almighty. The prophet SAW explained to her that a woman was a fighter in Allah's way from the time she became pregnant up to the time she delivered, and from the time she began breastfeeding until the time she stopped. If she died during that period, her position would be that of a martyr. To raise a virtuous child is one of the greatest good deeds. It continues to bring reward even after death. May Allah accept our efforts as mothers and give us strength to raise our children as practicing Muslimahs Ameen
